Tuesday, October 8, 2013
Two years ago today at about this time, Dale and I were sitting in a room at an orphanage in Razgrad, Bulgaria waiting to meet our sweet little girl. Our journey to that point had been somewhat of an emotional roller coaster, as most adoptions are. I can’t speak for Dale, but I know I had every emotion possible running through my body at this time and was so very nervous to meet her. But I did not need to worry. I have no doubt that God had prepared her for us and she was so ready to meet her mommy and daddy. She came in and the caregiver told her mama and she came right to me and took my outstretched hands and patted them and smiled so sweet My regret is that they would not allow us to video the first meeting. Oh how I wish I could have had that moment preserved on video. It is etched in my mind forever though…Happy Metcha Day Kayti Elizabeth. Daddy and I love you soo, soo much and did from the first minute we saw you. I found the poem below shortly after trip one and changed a few words, but it describes how I felt that day perfectly! We also celebrated your 6th birthday and second birthday at home on October 5 and had a great weekend of parties this past week. She got so many nice gifts from everyone! She totally knew this weekend was all about her birthday! To those of you who were at her family party reading this, thank you for everything and about the drama towards the end, and we love you all! As always, I thought of her birth mother today and thanked her for the greatest blessing we could have ever received! I am sure that a lot of you are wondering where we are in our 2nd adoption process to bring our little boy home. We received USCIS approval on September 16, 2013 and are US agency is putting our dossier together to send soon. Praying it makes it by the last October meeting so we can travel this year on trip one. As for Kayti, most of you see how well she is doing and that she is thriving on her families love! She continues to amaze us every day and continues to make us laugh constantly, and just touches every place in our hearts. We are making progress in all areas. She can now dress herself completely, put her dishes in the sink when done with a meal, put her clothes in the hamper before her bath, bring us her cup when asking for a drink, and she now feeds our one chihuahua every night. She is now starting to recognize people and associate names with them. She recognizes letters and numbers. (NOT to read them, just know that they are either letters or numbers. She will say the alphabet when she sees letters, and start counting numbers when she sees numbers (ie numbers on a clock, watch, my keyless entry on my car, etc). She is starting to recognize her name a little bit now as well. Potty training continues to be a work in progress. I was extremely proud of her on Sunday as it was her birthday party with family, and as excited as she was she said she needed to go potty twice and kept a dry pull-up all day. Other days we get distracted and forget. She also pottys at school most of the time now as well! We will continue to work on it until we get it 100%. She is still going to her pre-school two days a week and loves it. They have been great with her and she loves her teachers! We had a great summer and enjoyed beautiful weather for our fairs and enjoyed our own camper this year so much. This weekend we are having our annual weiner roast and hayride and are looking so forward to that! Thank you all for your continued love and support! Love you all:) Lori, Dale, and Kayti!! How can I understand what I am about to see? The years of waiting arel now just a memory. Your eyes, your skin, your hair, the beauty of your face. I can’t believe that this day we finally embrace. Instantly the pain I felt so deep has now gone. Instantly I now have a child to call my own. Instantly you are my dream come true. Instantly, miraculaously blessed with you. I can hardly believe how beautiful you are. Practically perfection, the most precious one by far. A gift that was tucked away until this day. That we could meet, and I know your okay. Instantly and seemingly in a great big whirl, I have now met my sweet, beautiful little girl. Instantly and suddenly you are my dream come true. Instantly, so instantly I am blessed with you. How do I even begin to thank my Father above? Fow allowing me to know the depth of a mother’s love. Tears I’ve cried before this day don’t matter anymore. I have a joy in my heart I have never felt before. Instantly, a perfect gift bestowed upon me. I will love you until enternity. Instantly to you, I have lost my heart. Instantly I loved you so from the start. I will try my very best to love and care for you. Because that is just what mommies do! Instantly, suddenly you became my world. I love you to the moon and back my sweet baby girl.
Tuesday, July 9, 2013
I think most of you already know, but for any one who missed it we have signed commitment papers and are in the process of adopting a little boy from BG. So Kayti will be getting a little brother. We are so very excited to be taking this leap of faith again. Of course, we couldn't do it without all of your support:) You all were so amazing over the course of our journey to Kayti and I know you will be there for us again! Of course, we are also using the same agencies as well. We are grateful for them and everything they do:) Thanks Carol and co and Angela and FNA staff! You go above and beyond so many times and we could not be more excited to be working together again. We are going to be doing a little fundraising and I am excited about a couple of fundraisers I have lined up. I am posting a link to donate to our RR FSP account which is already growing. Kayti is excited about having a baby brother, but I don't think she really understands what it means right now. She just likes to look at his picture. She is doing so well. Growing and learning every day. We could not possibly love her any more:)) I want to take a second to encourage every one of my friends who is on this roller coaster ride called adoption that in the end, it is ALL so worth every ounce of pain and every penny you spend. Nothing could be more rewarding in the end and the proof is in the fact we are going through it again:). I hope everyone will be as supportive this adoption as they were with Kayti. I will give a more detailed update on Kayti soon as we have our 3rd of 4 post placements coming up in August. I can't believe we have been home 14 months on Friday! Where has the time gone?? Blessings to all:) If you all are able here is the link to our FSP that you can donate to help us bring our boy home! Thanks in advance!
Saturday, May 25, 2013
HOME ONE YEAR!!!
I don't know how many of you even follow our family blog anymore and I have considered taking it down, but I remember how much I enjoyed my fellow adoptive families blogs when we were waiting. It is hard to find any spare time to write though. On May 7, we celebrated a quiet Gotcha Day with a nice dinner at home. And then as of last Sunday May 12, Mother's Day, we have been home with Kayti for one year. It seems as if time has flown by. I remember writing in my journal shortly after we got home Can't wait to see what changes being home one year will make. And now we are there! I remember every detail of our Gotcha trip and have relived it in my mind a lot this past week, remembering what we were doing on each day. It has been a week of reflection. For those of you who haven't kept up on Facebook, Kayti started preschool and the Edinboro IU5 at Saegertown elementary school in April. She goes 2 days a week for 2.5 hours a day. She loves it and it is helping her a lot already. She has made some new friends and is learning to play with the other kids. It is very repetitive and that is exactly what she needs. She is learning more words and phrases all the time. One of the biggest things she did this past week was tell the teacher that she had to go potty and did. This is major because she still does not like being changed by strangers and she hates public toilets. She still loves Mickey Mouse and knows the words to the Mickey Mouse Clubhouse theme. She loves to sing any song and the other day at church, she started singing Jesus Loves Me and I didn't even know she knew the words, although I do sing it to her and she got a stuffed bunny for Easter that sings it. She also still loves Dora, Bubble Guppies, SpongeBob, Elmo, Doc McStuffins, and Sofia the first. She can tell you who each one is if you show her a picture of one. I am so thankful and grateful every day for this sweet girl. She is such a blessing. She has grown almost 7 inches and gained about 14 pounds in this past year. She is a good little eater and loves fruits and vegetables which makes me happy. We are looking forward to summer after a very LONG winter. We just got Kayti a new bicycle and a trampoline, so those should be lots of fun. We are looking forward to Memorial Day this weekend and then my birthday and the Bulgarian Reunion. We still want to go back for another one and there MAY be an announcement about that coming up soon. I don't want to say anything more yet because I don't want to jinx anything. I will leave you all in suspense for now!! Here are some before and after photos just to show what love can do!
Sunday, January 27, 2013
I have been so busy with Thanksgiving and Christmas that I haven't had time to update our blog in a while. I can't believe we have had Kayti for 7 months (almost 8 months on January 7). It has gone by so fast. It's the same amount of time we waited between trips which at the time seemed like an eternity. Kayti had her first big family holiday on Thanksgiving. She enjoyed it a lot and we had a wonderful day. We also drug her out of bed at 4:30 AM on Black Friday to go shopping with us. She was a little trooper and never fussed a bit. We are still wanting to go back for another one and this whole Russian adoption ban makes me want to get started sooner. Kayti is learning more English every day. She can say small sentences now such as sit down and pat the seat, drink milk, drink juice, drink water, ouch when hurt, do you have to go potty (when SHE has to go potty), love you too, don't do that, one more time, and now when you ask her what's your name she will say I Kayti. We are catching on more every day. I have been looking forward to Christmas for quite some time. I kept telling her about Santa of course and that we celebrate Christmas because it is Jesus birthday. We went to see Santa at the mall, and she was very happy to see him. I am not sure if she has seen a Santa before at the orphanage, but she sure was excited about it. Then we had our annual Christmas party at church and Santa came to that too. As soon as she saw him her face lit up and he said who wants to come and sit on my lap and she jumped off and was the first in line! So glad she is not afraid of him. In
Saturday, October 13, 2012
Sunday, October 7, 2012
I have been long overdue to update our Blog, but I wanted to wait till we had another milestone and we had one this week. We had a birthday in the house. Her first one with her family! Kayti turned 5 on October 5. I wonder if her birth mother was thinking of her or wondering about her on this day. My hope is that she could someday know how very much Kayti is loved and cared for now. Dale and I are so blessed and proud to be her parents. We could not love her any more! She fits in with our family so well and every one loves her to pieces! We had a wonderful summer and are sad to see it end, but I love fall. We really enjoyed being at the fairs and Kayti loved it as much as I knew she would. We are going to try and get our own camper next year and have the spot next to Mom and Dads. She loved riding all the rides at Stoneboro. Most of you have seen them on FB but I will put a couple of them here too. We also had a wonderful end of summer party/haunted hayride last weekend. It was so much fun. Really missed my Grandma Peggy for this though. She always had so much fun. Kayti is now working on learning the alphabet song and almost has it down. She has also learned Jesus Loves Me. We say our prayers every night and she now does this on her own when she gets in bed. Yes she is still sleeping with us and I hear you all yelling at me know. But we are (at least I am) enjoying having her close to us right now. Her bedroom is pretty far from ours and I am afraid to have her that far away right now. She has started to play with her toys now. For the past 5 months she would play with them if you got one out, but now she will go to her room and look for a particular toy. She has also started becoming very possessive of her things. We will work on this, but right now I am letting her go with it as she has NEVER had anything of her very own her whole life. Everything is shared at the orphanage. I know she will remember how to share when the time comes. I am just happy she feels that this is her home and these are her things now. For example, she has a Dora doll at mom's and Dale put her sweatshirt on it and she comes over and says NO, take it off and pulls it off. Then she has a little car and I sat down on it and she yells no mama get off and pulls me off. We are still a potty training work in progress. Sometimes she remembers and even goes in and sits down on her own and sometimes we completely forget. Oh, we still do not like pasta. Last Saturday I had to work and Dale made her hot dogs and macoroni and cheese for lunch and she ate the hot dogs, but not the mac and cheese. I came home and ate some of it and gave her a bite which she did eat, but said All Gone. I said all gone, do you mean no thank you and she said Yes no thank you! Too funny. Not really sure why she dislikes it but there is no question she does! Hoping maybe she outgrows it. She is also more of a salty snack girl than sweets, which is ok with me. Lianna says she can not possibly be related to her because she loves pasta and sweets! LOL! She has started to learn to tell me instead of just drink now she will say which one, water, milk, or juice. We also have another special day this week. On Wednesday we will have been home 5 months. One month short of half a year. We have made great strides and are doing super. We have grown 4 inches and gained about 12 pounds since being home. So happy about that! We still have a lot of catching up to do, but she is doing awesome so far and I have no doubt she is going to do fine! She is also learning to feed herself with a fork and spoon. She could a little when we got her, but it was pretty messy and just easier for me to do it, but now she is getting good at it and loves to be a big girl and feed herself. And now for our birthday. We started practicing blowing out the candles this week. She thinks that is great fun. Daddy took off Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday, and I took of a half day Thursday and all of Friday. On Thursday, we went to the Erie Zoo. It was a beautiful day weather wise. Sunny and low 70s. Perfect! Kayti really enjoyed all the animals and just being outside. For those not from the area, the Erie Zoo is a rather small zoo, but very nice. Then we went to the mall and to Toys R Us for the first time. I think we were more excited in the toy store than she was though. LOL. We topped the afternoon with a nice dinner at Outback Steakhouse. On Friday her actual birthday, we stayed home and had a quiet day inside as it was raining. Actually we did venture to Wal-Mart and also got our hair cut. Kayti opened her presents from Mommy and Daddy and loved them. She only focuses on one toy at a time though, so I will have to remember not to overwhelm her at Christmas. Uncle Mike got her a Cozy Coupe car and he wanted her to have it today, so we went to Moms and she LOVES her car. Had a hard time convincing her to get out of it to do anything else. She even sits in it to watch TV. Too cute!! It looks like she is at a drive in movie!! Boy mommy is showing her age with that analogy. How many of you actually remember drive in movies? Then we had a nice supper and a DQ cupcake with a candle for her to blow out. Today is Saturday and we had her family party today. We had chicken and sandwiches, from Giant Eagle and grammies baked beans, macaroni and cheese, angel fruit salad, chips, and lots more. And of course, cake and ice cream! Kaytis guests included Grammie, Papa, Aunt Lianna, Uncle Mike, Uncle Daryl, Aunt Heather, Dane, Naomi, Uncle Bill, Aunt Marty, Aunt Mabel, Kathy, and Tom. Grandma and Grandpa Buchanan and Aunt Carla were sick with colds and could not come. She got lots of nice gifts and was a little overwhelmed with all of the gifts at first but since everyone has gone home, she is playing with all of them now a little at a time. Again, I will say that Dale and I are ready to go back for another one. The only question is when. We have already made an inquiry about a waiting child and although we are not ready to start over financially, I know that God will provide. I will try and keep you all updated on that front. I can not believe I am saying this, but I actually miss the crazy emotional adoption roller coaster. At least the good parts!! LOL. Please everyone remind me of that when we are in the middle of another one and I am complaining of the crazy paperwork and awful wait! I will say Kayti was so worth every single second of heartache we went through and every penny we spent. We are a VERY happy family!! I can only pray that the second one goes half as smooth. She has had 0 issues adjusting and is just the best, sweetest child. Of course she has her moments, but for the most part, she is a sweet, obedient, and loving child. We can not wait to see what the next few months will bring with Christmas. So looking forward to her seeing Christmas lights!! God is so good! I thank Him everyday for blessing us with this beautiful sweet child! And now for some pictures: